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I should have danced more . . .

The milonga Saturday, during Austin Spring Tango Festival, was absolutely beautiful. The performances were extraordinary, inspiring. I got to spend some quality catch-up time with my favorite diva girl friend. A beautiful night.

But in the midst of old friends, wonderful dancing and dancers, I got a call about my mom. I had not known until that moment how sick she was - no one had told me. I suspected there was more information I was being protected from, but I really had no idea. For me everything has stopped - the music, the dancing, everything - while I get my bearings.

I have tango class tonight and I have to go. If I don't go tonight, I'm afraid I won't go again. And I'm going to need the music and tango to hold it all together. I read more and more about the healing power of Argentine tango on sites like this one:

Tango Health on Tango Connections http://tangoconnections.ning.com/group/tangohealth , and I'm inspired.

Even my dreams tell me to go. I dreamt I learned to lead (now you know I was dreaming) so that I could dance with my mom and be able to support her.
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Stephen Twist said…
Feel the support of your tango friends and keep strong. Stephen, Tango Health Club
April 1, 2009 at 11:10 AM
AmpsterTango said…
In the span of less than a year, I had lost two people close to my soul. On both occasions it was in tango that my sorrow was helped eased. Keep going. It's beautiful healing therapy.
April 2, 2009 at 12:32 AM
Mari said…
Thank you to all of you for your comments. I went to tango class last night and felt such a huge relief to be "in the music" again - even in my clumsy tango. Saturday I have another class, practica and a milonga that night - 7 hours of tango in one day! How does the tango phenomenon take over so fast? I've never experienced anything like it.
April 2, 2009 at 5:47 AM
Mr Walker said…
Hi Mari

So sorry to hear about the poor health of your mother,you have our support.and i hope you can take some comfort in that you will not be alone,
Ampster is so right about It's beautiful healing therapy and your comment about tango phenomenon. i started out at 1 hr aweek and now it is all consuming..infact i would say i have given up anything which doe's not give me as much pleasure as tango....life is too short...
April 3, 2009 at 4:39 AM
Mari said…
Mr. Walker, thank you so much for your kind words. You're right, life is too short. Who said this? I can't remember, but it's something like, 'Life may not be the party we were hoping for, but while we're here, we might as well dance.'
April 3, 2009 at 8:08 AM
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